Saturday, February 21, 2015

Handling Life's Accumulation of Burdens

Snow has been a recreational event for the greater part of my life. In Texas an occasional snow was something to play in. In California snow is a two hour drive to tube. And in British Columbia a snow broke up the winter rains for a few days.

However, since living near Toronto, Ontario snow can accumulate a few feet after a big storm. It can stick around for a period of time.  While I have adjusted well to the conditions of Southern Ontario, I am quite bothered by the cycle of how snow gets pushed around in the neighborhoods throughout the Greater Toronto Area.

The cycle works like this. After shoveling the snow off our walks and driveway…
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  • A snow plow comes down our street and pushes snow off the street forming at times a 3+foot wall of snow and ice.

  • A small snow plow pushes snow from the un-shoveled sidewalks onto my neatly shoveled walks. 

  • Then forms a 6 foot+ wall at the end of the sidewalk.

  • And when the snow finally melts people who have not kept their walks and driveways clean shovel snow back into the street.


As I see this cycle repeated with each storm, I can see that a lot of snow in the neighborhood gets pushed onto someone else to deal with.

Image result for snow plow wall "driveway"People push their preferences, mistakes, ideas, mediocre work, etc onto other people to deal with. How many times do we hear people say, “Not my problem!” Yet they have pushed their problems or preferences down the line for someone else to figure out. The problem with pushy people is that they do not understand that the problems they push down the line piles up on other people. This causes someone to bear extra burdens in their lives.

As Christians, God has called us to take personal and corporate responsibility for how we ought to carry our heavy loads of life.

My TIE: How are we to handle Life’s Heavy burdens?

1. Take Control of your Conduct

"Be sure to do what you should, for then you will enjoy the personal satisfaction of having done your work well, and you won't need to compare yourself to anyone else.  For we are each responsible for our own conduct." (Gal. 6:4-5 NLT)

Paul admonishes believers to do what is right, be excellent with work and stop comparing ourselves with others. Just because we might live and work with people who are pushers does not mean we need to become a pusher as well. If we have been transformed because of the forgiving blood of Jesus, we are free to shed our pushiness and put on God’s Holiness. Our personal holiness is like a thermostat that we can control our climate by the way we are Response-Able to God’s truth.

Therefore, each of us must adjust our spiritual thermostat in order to respond to life in a way that allows God to strengthen and purify our lives through all of life’s circumstances.  We can take control of our holiness thermostat by accepting our present situation and asking God, “How do you want me to accomplish your mission through this?”  

2. Lighten Life’s Heavy Loads Together

"Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you fulfill the law of Christ." (Gal. 6:2 NIV)

Everyone can get overwhelmed by the mess that the world pushes onto us. Each of us might be carrying different sized loads that are not equally weighted. However, there will be times and seasons for each of us that our personal loads are too much. Each of us has done all we can about the load then we find ourselves being crushed by life. 

Image result for church lighten loadsNo matter how heavy or light our personal loads are there is relief if as fellow Christians especially in our local churches if we place all of our loads down and lift them together to God.  We know people are being crushed by work, finances, lack of provisions, illnesses, difficult relational circumstances, etc. Yet, in our church life gives little attention in giving relief. Sadly, there is no relief offered even through the ministry of prayer and sincere words of concern. One of the unique opportunities to bless one another in our local churches is to share our life loads with prayer, concern and even lightening the burden if through available resources within the church.

I am reminded that in a recent heavy snow storm that my wife and I had done all we could in our shoveling. I was trying to knock down the large wall pushed onto us from the snow plow. My strength was waning with about 1/3 of the wall yet to conquer.  Then one of our congregation members showed up and together it took 15 minutes to remove the wall and place it into my yard. This late hour relief restored my energy.

3. Share the heavy Loads of Forgiveness

"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." (Col. 3:13 NIV)

Perhaps the heaviest burdens many people are carrying around in our churches are the many grievances we hold against others in our churches. These kind of burdens are incredibly sneaky in nature. We all can allow little arguments, hurts, and unloving actions by others accumulate into a heavy load by being silent. It is like how fluffy snowflakes can become so weighty that structures can be crushed by the accumulated weight. Inwardly, we hope these accumulated pains will go away or the people who offended us will get a clue for what they have caused us. However, by letting it be the more bitterness and anger builds up in our lives that we cannot stand to hear of good blessings happening to that person.

Instead of accumulation of grievances, we are commanded to share them with the responsible person and work a way to find forgiveness in a way that is modeled after a Great God who has forgiven all of our sins against Him. Working through our conflicts to find the forgiveness we all need is like one who shovels snow periodically through the storm so that when the storm is over, this person can better handle the circumstances that pushes their messy snow onto our sidewalks and driveways.

God has indeed given us a great grace in the opportunities to trust Him and His church to handle the accumulation of life's burdens!

Saturday, February 14, 2015

Hearts in the Snow Remind me to GRASP God’s Unifying Love

On a quiet Friday morning. I was wrapping up my study on Matthew 19:1-12, where we find stuff like divorce, adultery and eunuchs. My thoughts were focused on how to communicate the differences between the heavenly and earthly family in order to focus on a higher calling of belonging to our heavenly family.

When I could sit no more, I took a walk around the church building in thought and prayer. Along the way, I stopped and looked outside to find two interlocking hearts in the snow made by cars randomly coming in and out of the parking lot outside the church. I quickly took a picture in order to preserve this find. 
 
Worried that maybe what I saw in my picture was just my imagination, I showed it to a couple of trustworthy people later that afternoon. To my satisfaction they saw two hearts. 

Then I did what any enthusiastic photographer would do:

1. Share on Facebook. Got a few affirmations.

2. Send to my favorite “Geek Talk Show in the Universe” which is CNET’s Tomorrow Daily. Got featured on Episode 126.

And 3. Ponder how a preacher can use such a picture on a Valentine's weekend.

It was almost a week later, that I showed one of the ladies my picture at a daytime Bible study. She saw, “Hearts of unity.”

MY TIE Moment: GRASP God’s Unifying Love

There are many snapshots taken in our churches' moments of life together. These moments can be found in our normal church activities where we regularly come together to celebrate, learn and grow common ground together. Other snapshots might be taken during times of crisis such as illnesses, conflicts, and sudden tragedies. If we were to take a snapshot in any of these given moments in the lifespan of our churches, would we capture a picture of unifying hearts?

As I have pondered my picture of unifying hearts that were captured only in a specific moment, I thought about how Scripture can guide us to gain the abilities to capture unifying hearts in our churches snapshots.


Unifying in God’s love gives us the ability to…

…Gain confidence in the depth of God’s Love
“I am convinced that nothing can separate us from God’s Love.” (Romans 8:38)

The world tries its best to convince each of us that we are lesser value for any reason. Often we will believe because people abandon us so does God. When we know God’s love for the world is that of sacrifice, patience, and even a desire to be present with us, then we are able to respond to God’s love with full confidence. If death cannot separate us from God’s love, then how can we remain divided within our hearts and churches about the great power of God’s love to unify our hearts?

…Remain in God’s Love
“Remain in my love. When you obey me, you remain in my love…” (John 15:9b-10a)

When we choose to obey Christ we will respond in His love. We will choose to accept the title “child of God” as the greatest title we could receive (Matt. 18:4) We will choose to win back a Christian who sins against us (Matt. 18:15). We will choose to forgive others on God’s standard (Matt. 18:21-35). And we will choose to give mercy to others rather than sacrifice as a response to the Lord of the Sabbath (Matt. 12:7-8).  We must respond to God’s love if we are to love others with His love in life.

…Assist each other in maturity
“Don’t pretend that you love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Stand on the side of good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.” (Rom. 12:9-10)

Hypocrisy is the biggest turn off to church. So why do churches put on a pretend show to love each other by being merely being courteous?  There lies a danger that being a courteous congregation disguises itself as being a loving church because there is an absence of conflict.   Our love is revealed when conflict arises through lies, gossip, diversity and pressure to agree in biblical non-essentials. 

However, if a church is building up a maturity to respond to life on the basis of what is right, stands for what brings out God’s best, and delights in honoring each other as genuine responses of love, then the power of bitter feelings in conflict has a diminishing power over the church. Mature Christians believe God’s glory can overcome all shadows of darkness.

…Strengthen our Response to Bless others
“Finally, all of you should be of one mind, full of sympathy towards each other, loving one another with tender hearts and humble minds. Don’t repay evil for evil…Instead pay them back with a blessing. That is what God wants you to do…” (1 Peter 3:8-9)

God wants us to be unified in blessing others in any situation. The way to build strength in blessing others is to practice blessing others within the church. One of the greatest ways to be strong in blessing is by building up empathy in the church. Having the ability to understand the difficulties of people’s lives is difficult but not impossible. Meeting the needs of others just because one can gives amazing life to the giver and receiver.  Withholding the urge to get back at those who have burned us in the church allows the best opportunity to restore broken relationships.     

…Prove we are full of Eternal Life
“If we love our Christians brothers and sisters, it proves we have passed from death to eternal life…” (1 John 3:14)

Loving one another proves that God’s loves is in our churches. We show the ability to grasp how God can enable transformation in all of our circumstances.  Without love for one another, then who cares who comes and goes or what the consequences of others misdeeds are. When we fail to love the people in our churches we do not care to correct or bless them. We only care to keep in our church who and what we like and dispose who and what we do not like. This only shows that a worldly love exists in our churches that will crowd out God’s love.


Are we taking seriously the need to GRASP God’s love that will Unify our love in the life of our churches?